I am happy that the conversation around ladies taking responsibility for their lives and future is gaining momentum. No lady is supposed to live purposelessly with the mindset of becoming a man’s liability. That is old school.
Ladies should dare to dream and set goals for who they are willing to go into marriage with based on alignment of dreams and vision. Not living aimlessly hoping to end up with a young man who might not even be above them in educational attainment.
We are told ladies are not selective when it comes to what they study in the university or higher institutions of learning. That might not be far from the truth as you rarely find ladies in faculties like Medical Sciences and Engineering known those days to be highly competitive. What about ICT today? You still find few ladies making waves.
We must change this narrative as ladies. Inasmuch as the man should be ‘man enough’, you as a lady should be whole before marriage. Being whole means being in charge of your life in areas of emotion, spirituality, finance and otherwise. If you are deficient in any of these areas and hoping someone else should make up for these deficiencies then you are simply a gold digger.
Your failure to understand this fact and deal with it is the reason young men are taking you for a ride in marriage. If you get this right, no man will mistreat or disrespect you. This is a fact. Some of you are financially buoyant but emotionally empty, lacking in manners, you are in the same WhatsApp group with those who have got it right emotionally but lacking financially. In fact, you are worse off, because it is easier for an emotionally stable person to manage their financial inadequacies.
Dare to dream as a young lady and work towards those dreams. Let that lucky man meet you pursuing your dreams and not standing idly waiting to become a liability to him.
Together we can make the world a better place.
